So this post is going to address something almost all of us have had to deal with at least once in our life, ex boyfriends. Those are always fun right? Whether yours is crazy, locked up, or just a big jerk this will still apply to him. Take it or leave it, but here it is.
1) He is NOT your best friend.
Now this one probably pissed some of you off, but hear me out. I did not say he can't be your friend, but he is not, under any circumstances, your best friend. It just doesn't work, regardless of why you ended things, you did. He may be an important part of your life for awhile but there comes a time when you have to cut the cord and let the kid go. If you want to talk to him every once in awhile then that's cool, no harm done, but don't go running to him every time you have a bad day. Not only will that make it hard for you to start and keep a new relationship, but it also makes you look slightly crazy.
2) He is NOT the greatest guy you'll ever meet.
I hate this one, and I hear it from girls all the time, but despite how great you think this guy was, it didn't work for a reason. If he was the neatest thing you've seen since Nam, then that's cool and all, but if he was suppose to be it, you wouldn't be thinking of him when reading this post about exes. The reality is that it didn't work for a reason, yes I know I already said that but I'm repeating it because it's important and the faster you accept that, the faster you will move on with your life. If that just totally ruined your day than think about it like this, if he was that great and it wasn't meant to be, then just imagine how awesome the right one is going to be. Trust me.
3) His family is NOT your family.
This one sucks, but we have gotten to a time where our boyfriend's moms actually like us, or their little sister or whoever and you grow pretty close to them. I understand that it's hard to let go of those bonds, but think about how awkward you would feel if you showed up one day and he was just kicking it at your house with your dad. Stop it.
4) He is NOT your excuse.
Girls are the WORST about using what happened to them, or some random guy as their excuse to be hateful, or slutty, or whatever it is that they're doing that they feel the need to justify. He is NOT your excuse. As much as you may hate him now, he was all you wanted at one point so you have to deal with that and quit regretting things. It may not have turned out the way you planned but that doesn't give you the justification to be the next Lindsay Lohan. That's just trashy, and also very depressing because let's be real we all loved her when we were younger. Tragedy really.
5) He is NOT a conversation starter.
Do NOT under ANY circumstances start a conversation with ANYONE about your ex boyfriend. Unless this girl is your bffl or whatever and you are locked away in a room somewhere crying about your feelings and no one else can hear you, he is not an acceptable conversation topic. Don't try to one up girls with your terrible boyfriend experiences and please do not ever talk to guys about him. They really don't care.
6) He is NOT dead.
Remember this one when you start telling everyone terrible things about him. Because while you can avoid his angry texts and phone calls you may run into him somewhere in public and then you have to face what you did. Just have some respect, for yourself and for him, you cared once, so did he. Just don't bad mouth each other.
7) He is NOT going to hold you back anymore.
Here's a fun one. Whether he was controlling, rude, or whatever reason you had for getting out of that situation, you're out. Which means, you get to be you! You get to love yourself first, experience things first hand, and go have fun! Don't take this as an excuse to be a whore...refer to number four...but don't get in a huge rush for the next guy either. Be yourself for a little while, you'll be surprised at what you discover.
If this doesn't apply to you then I apologize, but stay tuned, there will be more posts you might enjoy!As always, you're welcome ;) .
Love,
Kayla.
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