I might as well make a warning statement here that this post probably won't be the sweetest thing you'll ever read. But the group of girls addressed in this post includes myself as well. Refer to the introduction post and my comment about tough love, because here it is.
What is a "Broken Home"? This is a disgusting term used to describe a family in which only one parent is present. Honestly it infuriates me that these are even the words used in this situation, because in a lot of case scenarios only living with one parent is probably best for the kid in question anyway.
What I REALLY want to talk about is girls that use this as an excuse. I'm sure we've all heard the phrase, "daddy issues" and if you've ever used it, especially when referring to yourself in a serious manner you can just go ahead and slap yourself now. I mean that in the nicest way possible, honestly, but I don't feel bad for you. Get pissed all you want sweetheart, but I'm in that boat too.
Not having a dad around is not an excuse to be a raging psychopath. If anything, being mad at this dad character in your life should motivate you to do more with yourself. You aren't going to prove anyone wrong or make anyone regret what they did to you by ruining yourself. You're going to do it by slapping on some big girl panties and making someone out of yourself that everyone can be proud of, and that estranged father of yours can kick himself for not getting to know.
Don't know what I'm talking about? Here's some statistics for you, found on a website with the title, "A Fatherless Generation" ...obviously some just oh so brilliant people.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
- 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.
- 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
Does that sound like someone you would be proud to be? Does it make you happy that those are the stereotypes of people from these "broken homes"? No? Well it shouldn't. It should piss you off.
So what are you going to do about it? Continue to be upset and blame everything on the hand that life has dealt you? Use this as your excuse to be a less than mediocre version of yourself? Or let that motivate you to make a new name for yourself and for people like you?
I'm sorry but I hate that people who don't have a choice in the matter are already judged by society as soon as they have to write their parent/guardian on a permission slip. Don't give them a reason to think any less of you. Give them a reason to be proud of you. Not for overcoming a situation they think is awful, but for just being a good normal human being like everybody else. Because having less of a family doesn't make you less of a person.
Sorry for the rant, but if it motivated you at all then my job here is done, and if it didn't apply to you, then share it with someone or just wait for the next one! :)Love,
Kayla.
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